“COLE world”

Over the past week everyone has been talking about this girl Amber Cole. #AmberCole was trending on twitter ,and a video link has been posted of her.

Who is Amber Cole?

Amber Cole is a 14-year-old girl who was video recorded performing oral sex on a young man outside behind her school.

Everyone wants to talk about her, and how she’s a whore, nasty, a slut, and other negative things. What I don’t get is why do you all care?

Do you care because she’s 14? Do you care because of what she was doing? or Do you care because it was recorded and leaked?

Personally I feel like nobody should say anything because she is old enough to know right from wrong; she knew what she was doing, and what was going on. So why is everyone else so mad and concerned? If anything you need to use this as an example and show all these other young adults that this is what happens when you do this, or what could happen.

Another thing that annoyed me was everyone saying she is a victim of cyber bullying. You can’t be serious! Come back to earth we are human and live in America. People are going to say,tweet,post, Facebook etc. What ever they want and also who are you to judge ? I’m pretty sure there are people out there doing way worst things or have done way worst things so why talk about someone else. I’m sure there is someone who may know your story.

NO I do not condone a 14-year-old performing oral sex let alone it being recorded ,and put out there. It happened and what can she do about besides try to defend herself. She didn’t seem to sad about it after she made a twitter to “clear her name”, but yet was tweeting all types of celebrities and taking it all in as fame. At least that what it seemed like from her tweets.

One of her tweets: “retweet this if you don’t think im a hoe!?”

Really ?

Why have sympathy for her ? I want to know.

-LaBelleQuin

Love from a father

What is a father?

He’s not just the man who helped make you. He is the person that helps raise you into the young lady or man you turn out to be. A father is always there for you whether it’s for support, love, help, finance, advice, caring, a best friend  or anything else. Having your father in your life is a precious thing, and most don’t get to experience that. Your parents being married is even more precious but we don’t all get that.

For young ladies and men growing up with out you father there everyday can be hard. Those of us with very strong mothers are very blessed. Once they get of age they tend to have issues choosing the right kind of guys/ females, trusting them, and etc.Your father is supposed to be that one teaching you how a guy should treat you, and from the way your father treats you should set your standards for other guys.Young ladies always want that father daughter relationship, and even if they wont admit it they do. I’ve always dreamed of my father daughter dance.For young men its pretty much the same. Your father is supposed to be teaching you how to treat a lady, how to be a gentlemen and most of all how to be a man. He is there to guide you in life. Young men or women missing that factor in life can either go the wrong route or the right one.

As a male or female making babies may be “fun” to you, but you need to take care of your responsibilities. Your love to your child is very important. Be careful who you lay down with.You could have a child by someone you can’t stand but don’t let it affect you and your child’s relationship, or their relationship with the other parent. Don’t let it stop you from doing what you know its right. There are some petty women out there that try to make men suffer because the man doesn’t want to be with them or she’s not getting what she want’s, and vice verse. Do what you have to do to make sure your responsibility is taken care of.

Relationships with your parents are extremely important and help shape you as a person. Even if you and either parent are not on good terms, or they are absent from your life. As a young adult at least try. You only get ONE life, TWO parents and once they are gone, they are gone for good. Even if it fails at least you can say you tried. This is coming from someone with experience through all the ups and downs I love my parents.

-LaBelleQuin

moment of clarity

I don’t want anyone to take my post to heart, and I’m not trying to bash either sex. I’m more like trying to point out the things i see people doing wrong and obvious mistakes I see often. No one else is letting the young people know what they are doing wrong to one another so why not me ? That’s my only purpose to open eyes and put it out there, not hurt anyone or anything negative. 🙂

-LaBelleQuin

Males are doing no better than females

Males, why is it that you can degrade women ? Call them b****es and hoes, but yet you want someone to respect you as a “man”. I’m sorry but anyone that disrespects a female will NOT be respected in any way.

1. How can you disrespect a female, but you came from one.
2. For those of you that do disrespect females, how would you feel if someone talked to you mother, grandmother, any female in your family that way? You would not be happy about that.
3. Those of you making baby girls. When she gets to her teenage years you are going to go crazy thinking about your daughter and boys, and someone disrespecting her. Yet you have done it to so many females. How would you feel knowing your daughter is being called out of her name, and disrespected ? Your not going to be happy.

But you all don’t think about that these days.

Other things some males do that bother me:

1. You trying to get someones attention and you yell “Yo ma” or “Shorty” or “Aye”. What the heck don’t do that, that is so unattractive, and disrespectful. What gets me the most is if she doesn’t respond you want to call her all kinds of names. That’s just stupid, that’s not how you approach a lady at all.
2. Now-a-days you don’t even take your ladies out on dates. If you were to, you don’t open her door, hold the door for her, any of those things. There are no more gentlemen left in our age group, and you’ll be lucky to find one. Get that together.
3. I hear guys say “b****es aint s**t, but hoes and tricks!” or “I can’t trust these females.” First off not all females are the same as I said for males and second you can’t trust females. They don’t trust you either so I guess there will be no trust between the two. Guess what that results to a bunch of FAILS in relationships.
4. Cheating. Why do it ?  Just get the freak out the relationship. I’m sure that female would be happy to know you left her rather than you cheating on her
5. Leading people on. Just stop there’s no need, keep it real from the beginning. Let your intentions be known and go from there. Dragging females along for the ride is WACK and your WACK if you do that.

Males just get it together. Everything is 50/50.

Again these are my personal opinions. Please give your feedback 🙂 Thank you

-LaBelleQuin

Some things females need to understand

Ladies why is that you all always complain about men? I hear too many females screaming “All boys/men are the same!”, “Nigga’s aint s**t!” and other negative things. The only reason for that is because they were probably played by some guy and got their feelings hurt. That’s all fine and good, but it’s really annoying because:

1. All guys are not the same.
2. You attract the same kind of guys or go after the same kind of guys, then those relationships will all result to the same thing.

Here’s some rules 4 ladies

• Respect yourself.If you don’t who will ? Because I surely wouldn’t.
• A boy/ man will only do to you what you allow them to.
• If you walk out of the house dressed inapropriatly  ( goodies hanging out ) trying to show off, and get approached in a disrespectful manner. DONT get mad, you put yourself out there.
• You walk around hollering “I’m a bad b***h” and allowing your girlfriends to call you one. DO NOT  get mad if a male was to call you one. You made it clear to him that you don’t mind being called that.
• Ladies when you “talk” to someone of the opposite sex or whatever your interested in, don’t get mad at them for talking to others. If you are NOT in a relationship, you can’t tell him what to do, and who to talk to. You two are JUST “talking”.
• If you act DUMB you will get played like a DUMB person. SIMPLE!
• You WILL be judged by your appearance. It may not be fair, but that’s the world we live in.
• Fighting over guys = CORNY ! You look UBER stupid !!!
• STOP BEING SO EMOTIONAL about everything. I understand we are females and may feel a certain kind of way about things, but everybody doesnt have to know that. Somethings can be kept to yourself. 9 times out of 10 that guy does not care about how you feel, as long as your giving him what he wants. He is ok.

These are my personal opinions. I want to hear what you all have to say 🙂

-LaBelleQuin

My Journey to Success

Welcome, to my journey of success.

My name is Quintera Malloy. I am a freshWOMAN at Bennett college for women in Greensboro, NC. I am from Brooklyn, NY, but when returning “home” I’m in Columbus,OH. My major is Journalism and Media Studies.

One day I hope to be a popular radio personality, a popular author, possibly own my own radio station, and magazine. I feel starting a blog will help me get one step closer to my dreams. It’s also a new hobby for me and something I want to have fun with.

A little about myself: I am very outgoing, and love to hang out and party with friends. I have a great sense of humor in a corny way. I’m very big on family and I’m proud of me and everything I have accomplished and moving towards accomplishing.

This is my first blog, and im learning on my own. Work with me 🙂 I would love to hear your opinions, and tell me what you guys want to read about. Lets begin the FUN !!!!

-LaBelleQuin